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What To Do If Your Girlfriend Has A LOT of Guy Friends

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– Heya playa, have you ever had a girlfriend and felt a little uneasy about her having so many male friends? Well that’s the question that Wyatt Mercer was leading to when he asked me, “My girlfriend has close guy friends “and I totally understand that but she goes to them first “when she has problems and it makes me “a little uncomfortable. “It makes me feel like she doesn’t trust me “she has a thing for them, you can understand that right?” Wyatt, I can totally understand that and in this video I wanna explain how you can manage those type of situations or if they need to be managed at all. ♪ This is The Josh Speaks show ♪ ♪ You’re watching The Josh Speaks ♪ For those of you that don’t know, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday I share tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self. And this time I wanna dive deeper into this question. Is it okay, is there anything to be jealous about if your girlfriend has male friends?

I’m sure if you’re watching this video you’re probably split between two camps, those who feel like girls shouldn’t have guy friends and those who feel like it’s totally fine. For me, I’m 100% on the side of girls having male friends. I think it’s a good thing for girls to interact with different guys to gain different male perspectives. But when you’re in a relationship and you feel like other guys are starting to encroach on your territory by taking on roles that you should feel have in the relationship that’s where it can become a problem.https://www.canadian-chat.com/en From your perspective it may seem like these guys step in and fill in the gaps of things that you wanna do with your girlfriend or want her to share with you.

Whether it’s talking about her day, things she’s going through, asking for advice, any of those things you may feel like you should be the first guy that she turns to. But from her perspective she may see it a little differently. Her individual relationships with each of these guys rests on different foundations.

Some of them maybe she has a joking relationship with. Some of them she may have a flirting relationship with. Other guys she may turn to for advice but ultimately if she’s with you then you are the romantic partner you are the romantic guy that she turns to. You’re maybe scratching your head thinking well that doesn’t seem right, why would she be in a relationship with one of those guys when all of these guys make up the whole guy that she needs. I would say that’s not exactly the right approach to the question.

Different people do fill different roles in all of our lives. Your family takes care of you, your significant other is the person you can go on dates with and open up to and share things with. You have your friends to joke around with. And guys and girls can both fall into that friend category. But what Wyatt is concerned with is that when something goes wrong his girlfriend doesn’t turn to him and share the problem with him.

– Heya playa, have you ever had a girlfriend and felt a little uneasy about her having so many male friends? Well that’s the question that Wyatt Mercer was leading to when he asked me, “My girlfriend has close guy friends “and I totally understand that but she goes to them first “when she has problems and it makes me “a little uncomfortable. “It makes me feel like she doesn’t trust me “she has a thing for them, you can understand that right?” Wyatt, I can totally understand that and in this video I wanna explain how you can manage those type of situations or if they need to be managed at all. ♪ This is The Josh Speaks show ♪ ♪ You’re watching The Josh Speaks ♪ For those of you that don’t know, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday I share tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best self. And this time I wanna dive deeper into this question. Is it okay, is there anything to be jealous about if your girlfriend has male friends?

I’m sure if you’re watching this video you’re probably split between two camps, those who feel like girls shouldn’t have guy friends and those who feel like it’s totally fine. For me, I’m 100% on the side of girls having male friends. I think it’s a good thing for girls to interact with different guys to gain different male perspectives. But when you’re in a relationship and you feel like other guys are starting to encroach on your territory by taking on roles that you should feel have in the relationship that’s where it can become a problem. From your perspective it may seem like these guys step in and fill in the gaps of things that you wanna do with your girlfriend or want her to share with you.

Whether it’s talking about her day, things she’s going through, asking for advice, any of those things you may feel like you should be the first guy that she turns to. But from her perspective she may see it a little differently. Her individual relationships with each of these guys rests on different foundations.

Some of them maybe she has a joking relationship with. Some of them she may have a flirting relationship with. Other guys she may turn to for advice but ultimately if she’s with you then you are the romantic partner you are the romantic guy that she turns to. You’re maybe scratching your head thinking well that doesn’t seem right, why would she be in a relationship with one of those guys when all of these guys make up the whole guy that she needs. I would say that’s not exactly the right approach to the question.

Different people do fill different roles in all of our lives. Your family takes care of you, your significant other is the person you can go on dates with and open up to and share things with. You have your friends to joke around with. And guys and girls can both fall into that friend category. But what Wyatt is concerned with is that when something goes wrong his girlfriend doesn’t turn to him and share the problem with him.

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She turns to the other guys first and that makes him feel like she can’t trust him. And this is something I can totally understand. If you’re in a relationship with someone you wanna be that emotional support for them. You wanna be the person that they turn to when things go wrong.

When they have a question, when they have something to share that they know they can’t share with anyone else without being judged. It’s possible that she may not have that level of trust with you yet Wyatt and with these guys she’s probably been friends with them for a long enough time to know how they’re gonna react when she shares things with them. So with you, you just have to work on building that level of trust with her. And a good way to start building that trust is by using words of affirmation.

Let her know from time to time that you’re there for her. You’re willing to talk and you’re willing to listen. And then from there approach things from a non-judgemental perspective. Whenever she shares something with you don’t jump in to telling her what she should do or how she did it wrong or what she could do better. Just be there to listen.

If you let her know that you’re willing to listen and then you act on it she’ll start to include you more and more in that small group of people that she feels she can trust. But there’s a little piece there that we haven’t quite talked about and that’s questioning your girlfriend’s loyalty because she has these guy friends and because she shares and does so much with them. Because they have that type of relationship it’s only natural to ask the question does she like them, do they like her, where do they stand on the romantic scale with each other.

And that’s another thing you can talk to your girlfriend about. Let her know how you feel about these guys, but also respect her ability to make those decisions by herself. To decide when a friendship is getting a little too close and she needs to push it away.

Or when it’s okay for her to share. Those are her decisions and her actions. And the best you can do is share how you feel and then hope that she can share how she feels back with you.

Relationships are about communication. And as much as I can tell you what you should and shouldn’t do you really learn how to resolve this issue the best if you talk to your partner about it. What do you think though? Are you jealous of your girlfriend, your boyfriend, or your crush having friends of the opposite sex?

Leave your comments below and we’ll talk about it. Also if you have a question that you want me to answer leave a comment down below or you can shoot me a message over on SnapChat or Instagram. I try my best to answer every single message that I get. So if you privately want to talk about something we can do that over there.

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